While on vacation with my parents and my younger sister in a town set in the Himalayan foothills, I came across a renowned fortune-teller. He bestowed this knowledge on me that I was about to meet a tall, dark, stranger who would be my soul mate. For a 19-year-old who grew up in the romantic movie era — the 80s — it felt like someone had cast a love spell on me. Sure enough, when my vacation ended and I returned to college, the momentous day arrived.
On a beautiful sunny afternoon, as the gentle breeze swayed the trees, I noticed a tall athletically built adonis swaggering down the hill towards where I stood. His face glistened in the sunlight, and his golden flowing hair shone as he moved it gently from side to side. My heart went woosh-woosh-woosh, and bells rang in my ears. As I held my breath and gazed awestruck at the lovely being coming close to me, I gasped in horror.
No, no, it was not Count Dracula or someone unappealing. It was indeed a very handsome man, but it was a 70-year-old handsome man. Ouch!!! The person in question was my Interior Design Professor. Sorry, but that was not the age group I was aiming for! It’s funny how a predisposed mind can play tricks on you and make you imagine things. Well, a few months later, I did meet the love of my life, though under funny circumstances — a story for another time — and we have been married for eons of years. Interestingly, it has been determined that my hubby is my soulmate.
So, what constitutes a soulmate? Someone with whom you can always truly be yourself and feel at ease, and content. You understand each other so well, connecting deeply on both a mental and physical level. There is such an unwavering deep trust in one that you can pour your heart out to them without a hitch. However, what if you fall in love with someone and want to be with them, regardless of whether they are your soulmates?
Being in love is a beautiful thing. Your heart will flutter nonstop, music will play in your ears, and your face will always be plastered with a silly smile. In matters of the heart, we often make rash decisions because the heart wants what the heart wants. Love can lead you up or down many paths. Sometimes you may hit the jackpot and find your true soulmate in your partner. At other times, you may seem more lost and lonelier with them than you did before. In an alternate third scenario, you may still be happy and in love, but you may yearn for a missing piece of a puzzle that would make you feel complete! So, do you settle with what you have for fear of isolation or brave the storm to lead a wholesome and fulfilling life?
That’s the question you need to ask yourself in self-contemplation. The answers to the problems we create for ourselves always lie within us. You just need to peep inside occasionally. To make wise decisions in life, especially romantic ones, you need to be calm, cool, and collected. Being self-reliant and happy within oneself is the perfect recipe for an astute mindset. This allows you to really enjoy your own company. Your choices will not be needy or desperate but rather motivated by a desire to enrich your lives further with good companionship. In situations like these, where you would normally settle and compromise, you will bloom with abundance and joy. A word to the wise — a soulmate does not have to be a romantic partner, they can also be purely platonic.
We can all vouch for the best pals we have had all our lives whom we cannot do without. But, for the hopelessly romantics out there, here’s a silly little tip — simply close your eyes, and voila — you will see your soulmate. That’s what my grandmother would always say. Let me know if it works for you!!!!